Anxiety recovery needs focus, effort and a commitment, but let’s get rid of the idea of it having to be ‘hard work’.

Let’s debunk the idea that it needs years and years of talking and digging. That’s one of the things which Freud got wrong.

With the right approach you might be surprised how soon you start to feel and notice differences. The latest neuroscience shows us that the human mind/brain/body system is very adaptable, constantly learning and habituated patterns aren’t fixed.

 

Not focusing on change is harder work in the long term…

I bet you’ve already been working hard and spent a lot of time trying to manage anxiety or fix your thinking. Which is harder, continuing down the path of anxiety or taking some steps towards how you want to be?
Not shifting our focus onto what we want, not making the commitment and not allowing our energy to be on creating change is so much harder than the steps I invite you to take. Any step more than nothing means you are on the recovery path.

Let’s stop trying so hard!

So many of my clients are working so hard, trying to find a solution, trying to think differently, trying to be ‘normal’. What if the ‘trying’ is feeding the problem rather than helping?

Imagine anxiety as overactivation, fast thinking and frantic actions. Now ask yourself if more activating, more speed and more doing will help.

Snow Globe metaphor

I like the idea of the snow globe. Imagine you are in the middle of the snow globe and when you are stuck in anxiety, the snow is all around you so you can’t see out anymore. Doing more or trying hard is like shaking the snow globe to try to create clarity and calm.

Learning to reconnect instead:

Instead, we learn to pause, learn to slow down, learn to create a sense of harmony between our internal world and our external circumstances. In other words, we let go of trying and start creating connection and trust instead.

Learning to be in the moment and connect with what is happening:

Micheal Neill tells us:
“When you start to see that all of our problems stem from the universal diagnosis – too much noise in head – you also see that the solution is never more than one thought away – a dropping of whatever thought is occupying your mind, filling up your bandwidth, and making it seem as though you need to sort out anything and everything in your life before you could possibly relax, enjoy, and engage with whatever is happening right here, right now.”

Realising that you are not broken so it’s more about coming home to who you really are:

“What I am really saying is that you don’t need to do anything, because if you see yourself in the correct way, you are all as much extraordinary phenomenon of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy. You are all just like that, and there is nothing wrong with you at all.”
Alan Watts

 

Some further ideas:

Feeling anxious, scared or nervous are a normal part of being human. Just like feeling sad, happy, angry and all the rest. These are emotional states, and a state is never permanent. Our emotional state is always changing. A bit like the weather.

Anxiety is a temporary protective stress experience when the mind/body perceives danger. It only becomes a problem when the underlying patterns become habituated, and the ‘system’ becomes conditioned to overfire in response to stimuli.

The brain/body system gets triggered into the protective response. This is based on learnt unconsciously learnt patterns of A = B or C causes E.

If something in our environment or even an imagined thought is attached in any way to “= danger”, our body will react. The mind then tries to make sense of what’s happening. The trigger can be real or just imagined. The mind-made meaning can then make it worse and perpetuate the state. If we pause, slow down, attend to the body and be in now, you’ll notice the feelings very quickly start to pass by themselves.

 

“But I’ve been diagnosed!”

If you have been officially diagnosed, know too that you’ve been told about a condition and about what’s been happening. Conditions are changeable and not permanent.

Unlearn the unconscious patterns and responses that are creating anxiety

We start by reframing what anxiety is and exploring a new way of understanding being human.

Then we can reconnect with a sense of safety and regulate the nervous system.

By exploring underlying patterns in new ways, we can work with how your mind is working to create new up to date and more helpful patterns. 

 

With love

Clare xx