Avoiding triggers may provide temporary relief, but it hinders our growth and emotional flexibility in the long run.

What if I told you that the path to being emotionally free is to get very curious about your emotional triggers instead?

What if the key to being emotionally free is building flexibility, not avoidance?

What if emotions are simply a brain/body system interpretation of the current stimuli or context rather than facts or fixed responses?


1) Emotional Triggers are like messengers and your guide.

Emotional triggers are like signposts pointing towards unexplored aspects of our psyche. They are reminders of past experiences, beliefs, and unresolved emotions that demand our attention. Instead of viewing triggers as obstacles to be avoided, consider them as messengers offering insights into areas of your life that may benefit from healing and understanding.


2) Embrace being human and learn to lean in

Feeling emotions and vulnerable isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of being human. The more curious you get about how human’s work, the more you can realise how amazingly adaptable you really are. The strongest and most grounded people learn to be vulnerable

Check out Brene Brown’s Ted Talk on the Power of Vulnerability – https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability 


3) Flexibility comes from positive, regular action


If you wanted to get more physically flexible, you know you must move more and stretch, don’t you? You know that it might not be the easiest option or the most comfortable at first but taking action is the only way to feel stronger, fitter and more flexible. The same goes for your emotional fitness. The key is to start slow, gently ease yourself in and go at your own pace.


3 Practical steps to take:

Journaling for self-reflection – Are there recurring themes? What thoughts or meanings are you giving that reaction or the experience? What other choices do you have? How might you reframe those ideas or beliefs?

Mindfulness practice – learn to notice thoughts and feelings from an observer point of view. Noticing without judgement.

Compassionate self-talk – You are human, and you will be emotionally triggered from time to time. That’s okay. It’s how you respond to yourself afterwards that make the biggest difference.

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