You’ve probably experienced imposter syndrome at some point. Most people have, including many very high-achieving and successful individuals.

A KPMG study found that around 75% of executive women experience imposter syndrome.

If fear of being found out or doubts about being good enough are holding you back, then this is for you.

Here are my top 3 things to focus and work on to shift your mind out of imposter thinking, and step into your power.  

1) Upgrade your inner narrative:

There’s a huge difference between being a fraud and feeling like a fraud. I’m guessing that you aren’t pretending or intentionally trying to con someone. So, you’re not actually a fraud.

A great mentor once told me that the key to overcoming imposter syndrome is to stop behaving like an imposter!

If you are buying into your inner narrative about not being good enough, about it only be luck that you’ve succeeded this far or are beating yourself for any little mistake, then you are showing up as if you were ‘an imposter’.

You’re believing that those inner stories and assumptions are true because you’re feeling them.

Remember thoughts are not facts.  Feelings are fleeting when we let them pass and are not evidence of your capabilities.

To create change, awareness is the first step. Acknowledge that you are getting caught up in that thinking and behaviour. Then, start to question those ideas and shift your focus. 

eg:

  • Is that negative idea 100% true?
  • Is that thinking supporting me or kind?
  • What’s the evidence of my skills, strengths and abilities?
  • What would I tell my best friend to do?

2) Embrace & practice a growth mindset

Growth and change can be very uncomfortable. One of the most powerful things you can learn is to lean into that discomfort and trust you can change.

Adopting a growth mindset opens you up to curiosity about learning, normalises failure as part of change and helps you focus on your potential.

What if those feelings are a sign you are growing, moving forward and evolving? I love how Seth Godin says this.

“When we embrace imposter syndrome instead of working to make it disappear, we choose the productive way forward. The imposter is proof that we’re innovating, leading, and creating.” — Seth Godin, The Practice.

Click here for more on what it means to have a Growth Mindset.

3) Learn to accept and love yourself.

Instead of trying to squash or fight fears, the key to true confidence is learning to accept and love yourself for who you are. This isn’t an overnight thing or quick fix, but starts with a clear decision to make this a priority.

Self-love begins with counting your wins no matter how small, giving yourself permission to receive compliments and connecting deeply to who you want to be.

You are unique and are more capable than you’ll ever realise.

When you stop comparing yourself to others or ‘shoulding’ yourself all the time, you can create a space for exploring how amazing you really are.

Allow yourself to explore self-compassion and love in this way means that ‘imposter syndrome’ will naturally start to dissolve.

Here are some journaling prompts to help you focus:

 

  • What do I want to create in my life and why is this important to me?
  • Who would I be without that fear?
  • How can I love myself even more deeply today?

We get good at what we practice and our energy flows into whatever we focus on most.  

So, if you want to overcome imposter syndrome for good, keep focusing on practicing how you want to be and what you want to create.

Let me know if you have any questions or comments

With love,

Clare xx